What happened? I used to get a great deal of attention…and now I am getting older it seems no-one pays me any attention.
Don’t get me wrong, I have a wonderful husband…who is supportive, loving, romantic and a wonderful person to boot! He pays me loads of attention. Am I a good wife…probably not…I know I can be selfish.
When I was in my 20’s and 30’s I used to get a so much attention…from work colleagues, men, friends and so on. Now I am older…it doesn’t happen half as much.
Career wise, it seems I was in my ‘prime’ then. My jobs were very physical, involving long hours on my feet, lifting heavy things and now my body doesn’t like to do that…I almost feel ‘washed up’ at the ripe old age of 47. I have changed my career, and that is just starting out. I find I am starting ‘again’ in a completely different career…it is hard to stay confident when doing this..as I am a bit out of my depth sometimes!
As for men…well, I spent my 20’s and 30’s banging on about womens’ rights, equality in the workplace, getting angry if I got whistled at, wondering why men felt it was ok to ‘hit’ on you all the time, even in the workplace. Now, that has all stopped, and to be honest I wish it hadn’t. I look at the ‘younger’ ones around me and feel a little envious. Yes, I have a bit of a middle aged spread around my middle, yes, I can see my skin starting to sag a little in certain areas…but I don’t think I am that unattractive! I am just not young anymore.
Whilst I am on the topic of men…it does seem to me that as they get older, they become more respected and looked up to. With women it seems to be the reverse. We just become invisible to the world.
Then there is friends. I have some great, wonderful friends. But everyone is so busy with their lives (careers, husbands, wives, children and more!) that it isn’t like being younger when you had all the time in the world to do weekly catch ups, sit up all hours gossiping, ring each other whenever something exciting happened. Now, social media means I don’t need to even be in direct contact with some to even know what is going on their lives! Facebook tells me everything!
Now, screaming out that I need attention does make me sound like a 2 year old, I know, and I know that sometimes I like the fact that no-one pays me too much attention, and I can just sit and ‘people watch’ for hours on end, alone with my thoughts. Maybe it is just my hormones playing up…but it makes me feel a bit useless when I get no attention!
The reality is, as much as none of us want to admit it, we all like attention! I remember back to the 80’s (what a great era that was!!), when everyone went to nightclubs and bars on a weekend, and would dress up (yes, sometimes even Madonna style, which meant you could get away with wearing anything!) and dance the night away on the dancefloor. We had Joan Collins (legend!) with her big shoulder pads in Dynasty, let me tell you, she loves attention! Almost everything we do is because we want some attention. This blog (as much as it pains me to say it) is about getting some attention!
If you really think about it…there are so many ways we all spend time on trying to get attention!
Do I sound a bit negative today…yes I probably do…but that is because – I need some attention!
However, as much as I want some attention – I will not be taking any selfies! I hate selfies with a passion!!