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Is a mid life crisis real?

When is it respectable to have a mid life crisis? The term mid life crisis always makes me think of men that go out and buy some expensive car, or ‘trade in’ their wives for a younger model (yes, I know, not all do, but it is pretty obvious some do!)

Apparently, a mid life crisis can happen anytime between the ages of 45 and 65 years old.

The definition of a mid life crisis according to the dictionary is “a period of psychological stress occurring in middle age, thought to be triggered by a physical, occupational, or domestic event, as menopause, diminution of physical prowess, job loss, or departure of children from the home.”

Now, everyone at some point in their lives has different events in their lives which can cause a crisis. Losing your job at any age, or becoming sick or anything that can change your life can cause a crisis if you were not expecting it to happen. But, for some reason it seems more dramatic when you are older!

I was in a meeting the other day, as I have recently moved, and I was hoping to find work in the new area I am in. I met with another lady who has lived here for awhile, is in the same industry as myself,  and she has many contacts here. She gave me some names of people to contact, and I came away feeling optomistic. That was last Thursday. Fast forward to last night, I couldn’t sleep because I was worried I would not find anything. Where has my confidence gone? I have so much to offer…but I am also aware that not everyone wants to take on someone who is older, and maybe considered to be a little set in her ways! Of course, this is a negative way to look at it, and I must stop that!! I have a world of knowledge to share!

Is this part of a mid life crisis? Or am I just feeling a little down? Personally, I think it is the latter! I am not sure if I actually believe in labeling something that could happen at any time, but because as we get older, it becomes harder to get those jobs, we panic and call it a mid life crisis! Somewhere along the way, the human race has had to start labeling everything, giving people excuses!

When my son was two years old, if he didn’t get his own way he would have a temper tantrum (usually in the middle of somewhere like the supermarket! Oh yes, fun times!!). I meet other mothers now who have young kids and they say their child has ‘adhd’ or something similar! I am sure some kids do, but surely not this many. Maybe some of them are just having temper tantrums, and just need ‘reigning in’ a little!

But, I digress, back to the mid life crisis!! Do we just call it a mid life crisis when actually it is just normal life, without the knowledge that our entire lives are in front of us like it was in our teens or 20’s? Are we just having a panic about getting older?

The idea of a mid life crisis started with followers of Sigmund Freud, who thought that during middle age everyone’s thoughts were driven by the fear of impending death. Well, that could be true! Although, I do not like to think of my death as impending just yet! Still so much more to do!

So many people look at having a mid life crisis as a negative thing. I for one, can only see the positives! Yes, there will be set backs, and yes, down days, but this could happen at any age. With the knowledge we now have in our middle age, we have so much to offer the world! We are more comfortable within ourselves, and we know more about ourselves and what makes us happy!

Right…Monday…going to make something happen! No mid life crisis for me!!

Mags xx


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