Yes, I think my hormones are all over the place. My other half has been a bit snappy over the last 24 hours (and rightly so, he has been working really hard, he is tired, and puts up with me!), and today this has made me swing from angry to wanting to cry, in a matter of seconds.
Now – I have just read this article which I shouldn’t have read because now I want to not only yell at this guy, but I also want to cry…so am I just proving him right?
The comments by Tim Hunt, 72, a biochemist who was awarded the Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine in 2001 for groundbreaking work on cell division, added fuel to a global cultural debate about discrimination against women in science.
“Let me tell you about my trouble with girls,” Mr. Hunt said at the World Conference of Science Journalists in South Korea. “Three things happen when they are in the lab: You fall in love with them, they fall in love with you, and when you criticize them they cry.”
This guy, has resigned from his post of course! Just as well, he might have found some very angry women in his department.
In my younger years, I would have wanted to get out into the streets, to protest the inequalities of men and women, and demand that we all be treated the same. I spent years in an industry which is pretty much male dominated, and would never put up with anyone wanting to see me in a different light! I did always cry though when criticized, but never in public, I always waited until I got home! That, however, was just my ego I think!
However, now I am older, and although I still believe we should be treated the same way in the workforce, I do realise that as a woman I do take things more personally than the men around me and I will have days where my only solution is to sit with a tub of ice cream, bottle of wine and have a good cry! Some women take to going for long sessions of exercise to release their stress, but I am the reverse, I just want to curl up and let my feelings run free!
Is this bad? Am I letting the ‘team’ down?
No, I don’t think so, I just think that I need to try to learn to control my emotions a bit better. The problem is, this year I don’t seem to be able to control them. Is it just part of menopause coming on?
If it is, some doctors (mostly men I might add!) suggest doing the following to control mood swings connected to menopause
- Exercise and eat healthy.
- Find a self-calming skill to practice, such as yoga or rhythmic breathing.
- Avoid alcohol.
- Engage in a creative outlet that fosters a sense of achievement.
- Stay connected with your family and community.
- Nurture your friendships.
Well, I can tell you, I do not do the first three, but I do try with the last three. Maybe this is my problem! Maybe I should start doing this? (Although, the thought of not having a glass of wine later just makes me want to cry even more!)
Also, I don’t know about you, but on days like today, I don’t want a solution, I want someone to listen! (well, listen and agree with everything I say really!!)
I am going to research this more…I am sure there is an easier way to stop these stupid mood swings….I know some people get medication for menopause, but I am hoping to avoid that route altogether (strap yourselves in, this could go on for years!!).
So, what am I going to do right now? Well, I am going to have a good cry, make my pet bunny rabbit give me loads of cuddles, and then when the hour is respectable, have a glass (or two) of wine! Friday – sorted!